When you read the title of this post you may think it is about not giving up on your marriage with things get tough. Yes, I do believe you should fight for your marriage, but today I want to look at it from a different point of view. So often we think of fighting for our marriage on the defensive side of things. What if we started to fight for them while we are on the offensive side of things?
Marriages don’t just crumble over night. Thing don’t fall apart within a few hours of one heated discussion. Marriages start to crumble one little brick at a time. Sometimes it is from thoughts that we allow ourselves to dwell on that we should have cast aside the moment that we think it. Sometimes it is flirting just once with that coworker who is ever so friendly. Most of the time things start out innocently enough, but they turn into huge issues that eventually take the marriage out all together.
That little flirting here and there turns into a full blown affair. The thought of, “it would just be easier to leave”, becomes easier to you. When you rehearse something in your mind enough, eventually you will convince yourself that it is the right thing to do. Staying on the offense would be putting the flirting out the moment it tried to happen. Being on the offense would be praising and uplifting your spouse to others even when they aren’t around. We shouldn’t be letting thoughts take root into our minds.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. Philippians 4:8
I encourage you to take control over thoughts and actions that can lead to resentment and strife in your marriage. When we are walking in total truth and honesty with our spouse, it keeps the doors open for a peaceful and loving marriage. When we start to allow the thoughts of bitterness, or actions that aren’t pleasing to God or our spouse, we are opening the door for the devil to start tearing our marriages apart.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to leave a single door open for my character to be questioned by my spouse. I want the lines of communication to be wide open. So fight for your marriage before it ever starts to crumble. Fight to keep it in line with the Word of God, and pleasing in His sight.
What are some ways that you fight for your marriage?