Fight For Your Marriage

When you read the title of this post you may think it is about not giving up on your marriage with things get tough. Yes, I do believe you should fight for your marriage, but today I want to look at it from a different point of view. So often we think of fighting for our marriage on the defensive side of things. What if we started to fight for them while we are on the offensive side of things?

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Marriages don’t just crumble over night. Thing don’t fall apart within a few hours of one heated discussion. Marriages start to crumble one little brick at a time. Sometimes it is from thoughts that we allow ourselves to dwell on that we should have cast aside the moment that we think it. Sometimes it is flirting just once with that coworker who is ever so friendly. Most of the time things start out innocently enough, but they turn into huge issues that eventually take the marriage out all together.

That little flirting here and there turns into a full blown affair. The thought of, “it would just be easier to leave”, becomes easier to you. When you rehearse something in your mind enough, eventually you will convince yourself that it is the right thing to do. Staying on the offense would be putting the flirting out the moment it tried to happen. Being on the offense would be praising and uplifting your spouse to others even when they aren’t around. We shouldn’t be letting thoughts take root into our minds.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. Philippians 4:8

I encourage you to take control over thoughts and actions that can lead to resentment and strife in your marriage. When we are walking in total truth and honesty with our spouse, it keeps the doors open for a peaceful and loving marriage. When we start to allow the thoughts of bitterness, or actions that aren’t pleasing to God or our spouse, we are opening the door for the devil to start tearing our marriages apart.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to leave a single door open for my character to be questioned by my spouse. I want the lines of communication to be wide open. So fight for your marriage before it ever starts to crumble. Fight to keep it in line with the Word of God, and pleasing in His sight.

What are some ways that you fight for your marriage?

About Heather

I am a wife of 15 years to my best friend, mom to 6 incredible little ones, and a daughter of the King! Join me on my journey as I strive to serve the Lord with all my heart and live my life to the fullest!

6 Responses to Fight For Your Marriage

  1. momsthewordm March 25, 2013 at 2:55 pm #

    Great post, I love this! I loved what you said here: “Marriages start to crumble one little brick at a time.” Yes, it doesn’t happen over night. And we need to build a solid foundation for our marriages, based on the Lord and work at it every day. We can choose to build or tear down, just as the Bible says.

    I did a blog post back in November on fighting for your marriage as well. One of the things I said was:

    “I can choose to follow my husband around and nag him and cause tension in our marriage, or I can choose to accept that some things may not get done when I want (or even not at all) and let it go. I can choose to appreciate and be thankful for the things that my husband does do, instead of dwelling on the things that he doesn’t.”

    I find that choosing to appreciate the things that my husband DOES do instead of being annoyed with the things that he doesn’t do is a way to fight for my marriage.

    I don’t have a recent post about marriage as my today’s post was just a quick mention about my son’s getting married and my own linky party. Otherwise I would link up here. Should I link up an old post or wait to join next week?

    • Heather March 25, 2013 at 3:02 pm #

      Sure, feel free to link up the post that you have 🙂 We would love to have you. I love the quote from your post and can’t wait to read it.

      • momsthewordm March 25, 2013 at 3:21 pm #

        Thank you! I went ahead and linked up two posts. I will link up with you next week if I talk about marriage. I will link up with you on the week where I talk about marriage. Sometimes it’s not specifically about marriage but might be about our attitudes instead or homemaking related. Is that o.k. or does it need to be only about marriage?

        Is homemaking or parenting o.k.? I didn’t see any guidelines so sorry if I missed them.

        Do you have a blog button I can post?

  2. Jen G March 25, 2013 at 4:24 pm #

    I was just thinking today that both parties in a marriage need to prepare their hearts for the marriage, before they marry. And then do what they *both* need to do to protect their hearts during the marriage. Without those steps, one person is bound to let the enemy attack the heart… which is how he gets into the marriage and causes the division. Sad but it happens all the time!

  3. Christy Joy March 26, 2013 at 10:24 am #

    In our house we say, “proactive instead of reactive”! In total agreement here!
    Thanks for linking up with HWC!

    Christy Joy


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